I used to have a thing for guys with long hair. (Among my college friends, I was notorious!) I even developed a crush for Weird Al once his hair suddenly fell below his shoulders. So in 2019, I briefly met Zak at a London pub quiz night hosted by a friend of a friend. Amidst......

I really thought “smart, nice, curious, adventurous” were my most important criteria. How does one explain the criteria for connection? For being drawn to someone’s personality? And wanting to see them again even if they don’t perfectly check the boxes? My reaction to this date still mystifies me. I really like Paul as a person.......

Xavier and I have sort of dated before. In LA, Berlin, and London. Sort of. One of my problems is never being quite clear upfront whether something is a date. I mean, I’m almost entirely sure it’s because I’m shy about being vulnerable (that thing I’m working on). And, because I’m afraid of getting stuck......