Valentina gave me a task for my 3rd date with Evan (read about our 2nd date here). She and I are on the opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to assessing dates we truly like. She is driven by her brain, sharp, analytical, cautious, very good at pointing out potential challenges. I am driven by my heart, emotional, and overly optimistic. There is a reason I got married way too quickly.

While I try to get her to think a bit more about the “spark”, she challenged me to find Evan’s flaws. I could come up with one “kind of flaw” so far…not good enough for her! I am competitive however, so challenge accepted!

Evan picked me up from the co-working space I’m working out of . The plan was to go for a walk, followed by lunch. I had planned for 2 hours. We ended up spending the entire day with each other. “The date that keeps on giving”, as he called it.

The afternoon started on a high. I was walking my dog while waiting for Evan and went on a slide with my dog. We were sliding down and pretty much fell into Evan’s arm. What an entrance! He greeted me first with a bit of disbelief in his face, followed by a big laughter. Time flew by. And I loved every minute of it. It’s always a bit funny to see someone again after you kissed. Where have you left it off? Where will you go from there? Especially on a workday during lunch break. Evan made it so easy to feel at ease though. After a while, it all fell so natural. Neither of us wanted it to end. So we decided to go to the lake in the afternoon. The weather helped….the most gorgeous day in Berlin so far! I quickly wrapped up work and he picked me up at home. The lake was only 20 minutes away and we spent the best afternoon under the sun and in the water. Again…time flew by and neither of us wanted to let go just yet. So we headed to dinner (an amazing Asian Vegan place), followed by drinks. We reluctantly left as the place closed down. Even though it was a Friday, it felt like a mini break.

BUT back to the challenge. I hadn’t forgotten. And I found one more potential flaw. What gives me hope however (and yes, that might be the “blind” optimist talking again) is that Evan brought it up proactively. He is fully aware of it, which makes me think that we’ll be able to openly talk about it.

The next day, he came over in the evening to cook for us. Us, because we had dinner with Valentina. It was such as fun evening and a great way to introduce him to one of my closest friends. They got along very well.

After my only semi-successful attempt at coming up with “flaws”, Valentina gave me some more questions to reflect one. They are not easy ones…the type of questions around what you’re really looking for in your life partner. I will get back to these….after date #5 with Evan 😉