(Recall: Xavier saga part 2) When is enough enough? Do you painstakingly teach common-sense behaviors to a well-intentioned tutee in order to grow a good partner? What does it mean to “deserve ‘better’ “? As we left it, Xavier had shown quite a bit of promise. (He was sort of the “fan favorite”.) Parts of......

Dora and I sat across from each other, respectfully “socially distanced”. I was hungry. “Hmm.. Can you catch??!” “Yes! I’m good at ball sports!” “Ok, here goes!” She tossed over a ham and cheese sandwiched in aluminum foil that she had packed. YUM. Later, some coffee in a jug, and a carton of milk. And......

I must say, this may have been the best blind date I’ve ever had. And the first time I took a blind date out with a group of friends. Let alone the first blind date welcomed into a birthday celebration!  Nelson is 51. Another physics/math major 🙂 turned IT/engineering guy. An entrepreneur who’s had his......

It happened. It had to at some point. He didn’t show up. Jake, who I met on OkCupid. We wanted to meet for post-work drinks. Here I was at 7pm…7.05pm, 7.10pm, 7.15pm. I texted him through the App, but he didn’t read my message. I had to smile. I believe in energy and how when......

It was the last week of our 30 day competition. Pressure was on! I was again experimenting with little app-texting and going nearly straight to the date. More fun? After all, my shower-hair-makeup-ready routine was down to 40 minutes, and I’d save time not endlessly texting.  Owen and I had a good initial back and......

Valentina gave me a task for my 3rd date with Evan (read about our 2nd date here). She and I are on the opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to assessing dates we truly like. She is driven by her brain, sharp, analytical, cautious, very good at pointing out potential challenges. I am......

I really thought “smart, nice, curious, adventurous” were my most important criteria. How does one explain the criteria for connection? For being drawn to someone’s personality? And wanting to see them again even if they don’t perfectly check the boxes? My reaction to this date still mystifies me. I really like Paul as a person.......

Sometimes I think I’m pretty clever. But from the second Quinn opened his mouth, I couldn’t for the life of me place his accent. Italian? “Nope.” Ah I know, it’s Argentinian! “Nope.” Ok, say something in Spanish. “Hola.” Oh you’re Spanish! The charming, quirky voice was an exact replica of Enigo Montoya (Mandy Patinkin!) from......